The Greek philosopher Heraclitus once said “No man ever steps in the same river twice, for it’s not the same river and he’s not the same man.” The water in the river is ever changing and so are you stepping into the water. No other time is the change the same as when you become a dad for the first time.
This is a short list of how your life changes when you become a dad for the first time.
Your “me” time disappears from your schedule
Most guys need a little time to space out — to think about nothing in order to recharge. Once you’re a dad, you have to be creative to get this time back in your life, and you’ll probably feel like you need it more than ever, no matter how much you love spending time with your new addition. You may have to wake up 30 minutes earlier for work, or partner up with your wife to help each other grab a few do-nothing breaks. Designating regular time for yourself isn’t selfish; it’s essential to being a focused dad.
The new social norm is to spend basically all of your free time with your partner and baby
The majority of your time will be spent with your family. There will be less time to meet up with friends and do other stuff. You may even feel guilty about leaving your wife and baby at home when you go out to do anything other than work or buy diapers. But just as you have to purposely set aside some time for yourself and your family, it’s important that you pencil in some time for your friends and hobbies, even if it’s considerably less time than before. The same goes for your partner.
You are now responsible in a way that you have never been before
Now, you may constantly realize just how seemingly unqualified you are for the job of fatherhood; you may question your ability to care for a child, and your worthiness, every step of the way. But rest assured–you’re not the first dad to feel this way: We didn’t come programmed on this whole parenting thing, but we were programmed to wing it. This by the way also goes for your partner.
After all, when it comes down to seeing your new baby smile. That feeling is after all – priceless.